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There was a literal lifelessness to me and unenthusiasm that wouldn’t allow me to enjoy a full out masturbation session. Now don’t get me wrong, I can do lazy sex with myself each day…like literally go through the motions of masturbation just to fall asleep or to wake myself up, but during this trial, I’ve been so and sleepy in my life that there’s been no real need to masturbate for melatonin (not literally).
“When a woman talks about masturbation, it’s always: ‘’Well you’re clearly not getting sex from a male partner so you must be undesirable – or disappointed with your partner’s ability.’’ It’s lazy, archaic and just not true. If you’re hungry, you don’t wait until your partner gets home to have a slice of toast!”
Here’s a very important tip for those of you considering a return to manual masturbation sans porn: Don’t. Just don’t do it. But if you must, wean yourself off slowly. What I should have done, instead of cut my supply entirely, was begin this journey without vibrators, but with porn. Then after a few days, I should have cut back the visual stimulation to help kick-start that lazy-ass imagination of mine (which seems to be just fine at waking me up at 3:00 A.M. to tell me there is probably someone hiding behind my shower curtain but has trouble getting into gear when I need it most).
How to do it: Be your own big spoon. Lie on your side and put your vibe between your legs. You can either go hands-free and just rock gently against it, or use your hand to guide the vibe. It’s really about how much clitoral pressure you prefer. This lazy-girl masturbation move goes hand-in-hand with your favorite RedTube flick… or not, whatever you want. This is your moment.
Here are the techniques, timing tricks, and my personal “lazy playlist” that have completely upgraded my masturbation game (and those of plenty of guys who’ve tried them).
